“The boy child” – Ismail Zakari Adamu

Ismail Zakari Adamu
Ismail Zakari Adamu

Africa is one of the harshest and most difficult places to live in — that is you get to live. Life, especially for men in most parts of this region is marked by an unending struggle to see through diseases, ethnic cleansing, conflict, poverty, forced labour, sexual harassment and other quandaries from birth, through childhood, adulthood and even death. In fact, the journey of a boy child, born in the African soil, starts from the day of conception.

So much research, statistics, writings, oratory and action has been dedicated to the girl child, but nothing substantive has been done for the embattled boy child.

Women empowerment has so far been a great achievement following the vigorous campaigns and guidelines initiated globally, with a solitary endeavor to safeguard, uplift and empower the rights and status of the girl child.

Pageantry give more attention to the girl child with lots of Miss this and Miss that emerging and very little or none for the boy child.

In the past African society had norms which had great impact of infringement on the rights of the girl child. She had no place in the all-male dominated fields of employment and handling issues of great concern to the community. She was seen as a housewife, until the continent woke up to realize that all people are equal and deserve equal chances, that’s where it began raining on the man. The attention balance tilted much to the girl side and suddenly the man was out of the picture.

Equality, precisely gender equality needs to be equal-equal in the sense that there is no view of one gender being weaker than the other. Equality is not equal when there is allocation of stuff on one side of the balance than the other. When there are more opportunities placed in favor of one side than the other. The boy comes into focus only when talking about the youth of which both parties are involved.

This gender issues took a dramatic turn in a coup-sort of drama. It was everyone’s pleasure to have equality I guess. So that, all could be considered worth of doing anything-change of roles according to one’s interest and ability. This is probably one major turn that has caused Africa to be on rise. All gender can now contribute towards economic growth.

On the contrary, boy child has been forgotten. As a result, they have been rendered or rather subjected to all kinds of inhumane societal mischief, and unending life-struggle.

The male counterparts are left to fight on their own; they hustle and tussle to make it through without the equal opportunities, support, guidance and protection showered and instilled in favour of women.He has always been given priority and dominion over his female counterpart.

There were times when giving birth to a baby boy, meant prosperity and masculinity, while having a girl child was a sign of weakness. But that was then, things have changed in a flash.

All focus and concentration has shifted in uplifting the livelihood and well-being of the female species. It is a sad reality but in terms of considerations, all this is done in the name of gender equity and balance.

It looks ridiculous but in reality, women in this era are gradually and steadily taking over the capabilities, privileges, roles and responsibilities that have been customarily considered to be male dominated.

While people are quick to rush to the rescue of a girl who is raped, they don’t show the same vigour and urgency to a boy who is sodomized, tortured, forced to take drugs or compelled to be a child soldier — in the cases of abductions and recruitment of young boys by the Lords Resistance Army (LRA), M23 rebels, Boko Haram, Al-Qaida linked militia al-Shabaab and among others.

A girl child is always considered vulnerable. You can recall 230 secondary school Chibok Girls who were kidnapped from their dorm rooms by the Boko Haram terrorist group in Nigeria mid-April 2014, vigorous campaigns and awareness was initiated under “#BringBackOurGirls” hash-tag. Do we see such campaigns to reclaim back our boys, who have been abducted by these same groups to carry out terrorism activities, killing innocent people?

The heinous act of rape against girls makes me angry as well. Yet, over the years, similar stories though on a smaller scale, appear from time to time in the newspapers, and other media platforms about sodomized boys, and all society has done is look the other way, hoping the cases will just die a natural death. At best, the society have raised only faint whimpers and gone back to sleep as if nothing has happened.

The female species are being preached more for their market potential than anything else, which might explain why the boy child with his low commercial appeal has been sidelined.

As the issue of women empowerment gains prominence, the girl child is increasingly climbing the corporate ladder. The boy child on the other hand, is neglected and threatened species. The trend is worrying.

When women look at a man, they want to see security, ability to provide and responsibility. However, very little is being done to mold the boy child to grow up into this ‘ideal man’ that the society expects. Women argue that even when it comes to dating, men are reserved these days.

In our African setting, the rate at which young boys are opting to abandon school to go into trade is quite alarming. Some prefer the streets to being in school.

Not to forget the gambling menace that have been considered to be an alternative full-time employment by these young boys. Chronic alcoholism is also wasting away the male youth especially in the ghettos in the watchful eyes of the community leaders and authorities.

In Taraba for instance, alcoholism is a big problem. Most of those who drink are youth aged 17-28 years.

For Africa to be on the rise and eventually get to the point of other developed continents, then this issue of gender equality needs not to be exaggerated. For this only results into a reverse of the expectations and a rebirth of what was there in the past only that it’s the other way round. For instance, if there is a position of an engineer to be occupied, then let it not just be filled with a female because she is among the options. Let credibility prevail and the best be chosen based on credentials, experience and competences-if it is a man well and good -if it’s a lady even better. But not just a mere selection that one is among the choices.

This issue of appointment, selection and nominations that is gender based could become a downfall. It is good for balance to be in our society, it’s right and healthy but if asked, I could say let competence prevail. Prove your worth by going through the system and not via shortcut. If you can handle the people’s finances then argue out your mind with them to be elected and not just stand aside because you’re this or that gender among many.

The damage instilled on sodomized boys is just the same as that done to raped girls; it involves the destruction of the identity and worth of the child in his own eyes, in the eyes of the perpetrator — his oppressor — and in the eyes of his extended family and society.

Sodomy is as much an assault and violation of the victim as is female rape. Actually, the distinction is only a question of semantics. The feeling of desolation, devaluation, worthlessness and powerlessness that grip the victims cannot be put into words.

The number of organizations that advocate for female rights are overwhelming. Anything tagged the “girl-child,” is a gold mine for these ever mushrooming organizations.

Recent statistics by education scholars regionally, show that women are crowding up men in popular scholarly classes with the exchange of sex to earn grades or marks from the male lecturers. This has also reflected in the job recruitment and employment opportunities available.

Gender equity notions are erroneous and deceptive. If we de-construct this “truth” from a philosophical point of view, we find that more boys end up in crime than girls; there are more boys in the streets than girls; more boys end up in prison than girls; and research shows that more men die faster than women.

Once a boy child is branded and labelled by society, he keeps the tag into adulthood. Society neither forgives nor forgets the transgressions of a boy child easily.

The abuse of a boy child — whether physical, verbal, psychological or sexual — is always swept under the carpet. But if a girl child is concerned, all hell breaks loose.

The girl child on the other hand is luckier. She is spared of such comments and trials to exhibit signs of a grown woman. Try initiating the Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) to any of the young girls in the name of traditional right of passage and you will end up in prison. I am left to wonder, do we have selective gender laws that only work on the boy child and spares the girl child?

I have also personally witnessed scenes of a male toddler with blood coursing down the side of his scalp and cheeks while he apparently whimpered at the sight of the ominously looking blood stained apparatus, all which made me grimace with anticipated pain. These traumatizing images will forever remain etched in my memory.

No pain relief drugs as anesthesia, and you cannot flinch your eye when circumcision or body scarification is being carried out. The society consider it as a sign of cowardice and immaturity. Circumcision and body scarification imposed to the boy child are both painful, yet means a lot to many traditions in Africa that practice them.

Why should the boy child of today suffer just because historically the girl child was marginalized?
Aren’t we also creating disparities that would need future rectification in the process?

Both boys and girls need to be educated and mentored. We will be going wrong as a region if we give much attention to the girl child and forget that tomorrow will come when we will need the boys to become men.

There is need for more men to come out as mentors for the boy child, to guide and teach them what is expected of them as they grow up into men.

There is need for more pageantry to consider the male species, and when considered the selected males should take to schools and create awareness to the boy child about moral and say No to drug abuse.

After all we need each other for a healthy nation.

The boy child
The boy child

Ismail Zakari Adamu
Pioneer King of Fashion Taraba State

OG Friend Of Naira

Sir. Jassen Japheth popularly known as Eflexnaija is a student of the Taraba State University. He's a unique user of the pen when it comes to the expression of whatever is entertaining and educative. A young man full of optimism & amusement and a passionate advocate of prayer, hard work & persistence as a formula for success. He is the Site Developer-in-chief of the organization and also a writer of news, articles, editorials and a lot more to help expand the level of knowledge of the readers and simultaneously have them entertained. A lover of music and football is who he is and a Software Developer.

2 thoughts on ““The boy child” – Ismail Zakari Adamu

  • April 21, 2019 at 4:58 pm

    Nice write up…..
    But I fail to understand the main context….
    Is having equal right,now the problem?
    Or a girl child been considered as vulnerable is igniting a preferential treatment-which the society acknowledge now a problem…
    Or is the ills pointed out,such gambling, alcoholism etc,which I believe involved both gender now a boy child problem…
    Or is pageantry which the boy child voluntarily doesn’t wish to be involved to some extend a public issue….
    I think the boy child doesn’t suffer much societal ills like the girls…

    • April 21, 2019 at 6:02 pm

      Thanks Chrispodiah Lyon for your comment, the main aim of the article is to solicit for Equality before the law for not just only the Girl-Child as well the Boy-Child. That’s exactly the script writer’s point. Thanks for reading!

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